Why do we seek immortality?

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Today marks the death of Nelson Mandela and it got me to wondering about immortality.

In Mexican tradition it is believed that people will die three deaths.
1st – when our physical body dies
2nd– When we are laid to rest to return to the earth; ashes to ashes, dust to dust
3rd – is the most everlasting and complete – and that is when there is no one left to remember you. No one to say your name!

What will your legacy be? Who will call your name in a far distant future? Who will remember you when all who knew you are dead and gone?  We can’t all have great memorials erected in our honour – what we can do is make a difference while we are here, in the now.

Does it matter that eventually people will not know that once we walked this earth?

The answer is … Yes! because  our lives need to matter.  What we are doing needs to matter.  While we are here we should live the best life we possibly can. We need to live consciously and with focus and  intent each and every day.  Who remembers us when we are long gone is not important, who remembers us today is what counts.

Living with joy, passion and purpose is what it’s all about – random acts of kindness – have you smiled at a stranger today, perhaps lifting a burden from their heart.  We all want to know that we matter yet we move through our daily lives oblivious to  the pain and suffering of others.  We might pay attention to our immediate family and personal needs, but what about the family of mankind? Be kind, step aside, open a door, say thank you and manifest the world you want to live in.

We consume and consume, we talk about recycling – why not about reducing.  Say no to plastic straws, say no to plastic bags, say no to paper cups.  Reduce your footprint on this planet and you will be remembered with gratitude from the oceans and fields and forests and future generations.

If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another. HH The Dalai Lama

We need to touch the lives of others, be the silver lining in their cloud today – make a difference no matter how small and by doing multiple small and meaningful actions each day we will find that we have lived our lives well, we will leave behind something of substance.

Perhaps the person you smiled at or helped today wont go home and beat his wife or children, perhaps she wont have another drink, perhaps that child wont join a gang – each action has a reaction, make sure the ripples you cast in the pond are positive.

Recently it was  suggested that we ‘need to suffer’ to grow, I disagree if we grow through love and intent wouldn’t the end results be a lot more positive, more long-lasting.  Growing in pain and suffering doesn’t always have a positive outcome.  We are a wounded world – we wear our badges of woundedness like it’s an honour.  There are wars, crime and terror all around us, we don’t need more suffering we need to practice compassion, forgiveness and tolerance.

Most religions talk about suffering – why? How can suffering be of any use to us, to be the path to salvation.  Surely with our own inner strength we can overcome our daily challenges.  We choose in each and every moment whether we are going ‘suffer’ through or if we are going to embrace the challenge and rise up victorious. Suffering just leads to an endless downward spiral.  Surely we should be looking up and outside of our selves. The lower we sink into the suffering the harder it is to get out.

Suffering has many levels – a pop star who can’t sleep because the Hadedas are calling, well sir they are reliable weather gauges and are telling you the rain is coming, appreciate that.  We have people in positions of power-driven by greed and ego, we put them there; change how you vote. We have a  TV family who are setting the standards of ‘a good living’, turn off the telly, set your own standards and have real face to face conversations.

We are disconnected to the world and people around us.  We have become so absorbed with technology that we don’t notice the beauty and the pain around us. I went to the Waterfront on the weekend and was shocked … firstly a milkshake is R67.00 (US$4.85) but what caught my attention was that every restaurant I passed diners were sitting glued to their cell phones. Not talking to each other or enjoying the spectacular views.  One tourist was ‘capturing’ the view – lady put the phone down and ‘experience’, hear the wind in the trees, smell the ocean, see the clouds rolling in over the mountain.  If you are going to view your holiday through a cell phone camera may I suggest you cook traditional food to a particular country (of your choice) and then Google Map through that country, it will be the same experience with out the cost and ‘inconvenience’ of travel.

If we are not living, experiencing and triumphing then why on earth would we want to be remembered in perpetuity?

#SayMyName! #justsaying

2018 – Discovering the Unconscious Self

The Moon - Inyanga2018 – 18 The Moon – INYANGA
inyanga/izinyanga n. (-nyanga) : Month; moon; healer; traditional doctor

As we begin our new year with a Super Moon bright in the sky on a Monday we will begin to feel the changes within and around us. 2018 is a year all about phases and faces. The aspects of self, and with each face/phase we will experience different parts of ourselves. Thankfully some phases will be ending and new beginnings are just around the corner.

The word inyanga means month; moon; and what a month we begin with – a super moon, on a Monday and January and March both have Blue Moons. January 31st has a Blue Moon Lunar eclipse. Buckle up, its going to be a bumpy ride for some.

Inyanga also means healer; traditional doctor. This indicates that in a Moon year we are to be our own spirit-physicians, because we are responsible for how we live and how we feel and only we can heal ourselves.

Some people are very sensitive to the phases of the moon.  Life is experienced more intensely and totally during full moon. We can be extremely sensitive and emotional during moon phases.   The best way to mange this is to surround ourselves with a structured environment and positive people. The word Lunatic comes from Old French lunatique “insane,” or directly from Late Latin lunaticus “moon-struck,” from Latin luna “moon”

The Moon is the card of intuition, dreams and the unconscious. It’s an excellent time for starting new projects or at least initiating change. Use the tools that are available to help you with connecting to your unconscious and the Divine. Meditate, breathe, pray. Go for healing, Yoga/exercise, a reading or take time to research and learn about what interests you. Trust those flashes of inspiration, you are being guided and shown a path.   Follow up with positive action and start something meaningful.

When we keep rhythm with the moon we are more likely to succeed. As the moon waxes (grows) we build and develop, we nurture and tend to what was begun. By the time of the full moon we should have realised our goals, everything is seen in a better light. When the moon starts to wane (decrease) we reap the rewards of our past efforts and in the last quarter we need to consolidate our efforts, complete anything left undone. This is a time for reflection and to face the darker side of our natures.

The Moon has many faces – We know that we behave and respond to our world differently at home, at work, with friends with lovers. At no stage when we are in one of these persona’s do we feel conflicted, because we know who we are and we are adapting and adjusting to our environment. We also know that “this too shall pass” change is inevitable and when we are prepared, change is welcomed, when we are not paying attention change can be dramatic and traumatic.

Remember that we all have the right to get the most out of life. 2018 is a good year to expand your consciousness beyond the level of everyday reality. Each individual is able to bring about changes that affect every level of their lives and in turn their society. We owe it to ourselves to at least try. Some challenges and changes we choose to acknowledge and work with, but for the most part, we tend to want life to give us the answers, before we have understood or even asked the question. This only leads to confusion and depression – of soul and spirit.

One of our greatest tools and ‘life-hacks’ is our dream world. Dreaming is one of the ways our unconscious can talk to our conscious – take note of what is being done and said. Walt Disney said “if you can dream it, you can do it”. If not already doing it, start a dream diary. Journaling each day will show you the differences in your consciousness. Most common are dreams where we are simply downloading the day, our successes and our failures, our fears and triumphs – we can learn a lot about ourselves from these dreams. Then we have dreams of clarity – these are the dreams that leave a lasting impression and often we find them staying with us for days. Sometimes these dreams can be precognitive (showing us clearly of what is to come) and then there are the dreams when we connect with Divine inspiration. These dreams are rare but when they happen we will change our course no matter what.

Don’t let your dreams die! Live each day with intuition, passion and purpose. We have time and should make the best of it. We owe it to ourselves to manifest our dreams into our reality. 2018 is the year for awakening and self realisation.

The Moon is also about deception, we need to be vigilant about what is being presented. Not all things are as they seem and we need to trust our intuition when looking for the deeper meaning of self and life. We need to keep awareness of whatever persona we are projecting and ask – we are holding our truth. Adapting does not mean we have to give in or sell out our core values.

What additional energy supports us through 2018.

INDUNALessons from the past: 9 – The Hermit – INDUNA
We have heard and seen a lot of chatter about the Super Moon, and for some it may be quite an emotional and spiritual time. Some may have noticed a change in their dreams or a pull towards their spirituality.

The Hermit invites us to build on those experiences and work with our own personal wisdom and insights. What did you learn about yourself in 2017. What coping mechanisms did you instill, what were your successes and why? What were your failures and why? Issues that have seemed difficult may now have a clearer meaning. The path that we are meant to follow is illuminated and we need to reassess our goals – taking note of our achievements. 2018 is a time of self examination and assessment. We are exactly where we are because of the choices we have made in the past, acknowledging this is what brings our wisdom, order and harmony into the light.

The energy of the Hermit is to radiate our inner spiritual force and bring light to others. As the light bearer he asks that we show the way by self acceptance, which translates into confidence. As long as the intention is pure, the results will speak the truth with wisdom and insight. Share your knowledge freely, offer guidance based on your own higher learning and experience. Lead by example in a quiet and gentle way. We are all teachers in some way.

Laying Foundations for the Future

11strength11 Strength – AMANDLA
amandla n. (-ndla) : Force; strength; power; might

Most of us are tested in some way on a daily basis to reach down deep and find our strength. Be it to overcome an obstacle, to persevere in a relationship or project or those fighting disease and loss.

Strength is about focus and purpose. Living consciously is living with focus and intent. Understanding our motivation and preparing ourselves for the right responses to life and her lessons. Being focused allows us to make the right choices in the moment, which in turn results in the desired result.

 Preparing for 2019

How do you show courage in the face of adversity?
How are you remaining true to yourself?
How often do you submit to your weaker nature and accept the unacceptable?
How do you stand up for yourself?
How do you manage your fears?  Buddhism talks about ‘healthy and unhealthy’ fears. Healthy fear is being aware that an activity, choice or action is dangerous and harmful and to be avoided at all costs. Unhealthy fear is reacting to something in the future that may not ever materialise.

 ”Come to the edge,” He said.  They said, ”We are afraid.”  ”Come to the edge,” He said. They came. He pushed them… and they flew. Guillaume Apollinaire 1880-1918, Italian-born French Poet

Look for the hero inside yourself when working with the Strength card.  Be your own person.

amaNdla 2018! Phambili 2018! Phezulu 2018
Power, forward and upward 2018

 iTongo legend

IminyanyaWhen Unkulunkulu the great god of the universe finished creating the universe, he called upon his dear friend the rainbow serpent to keep the earth safe for all time. The giant serpent with all the colours imagined reflecting on his skin wrapped his body around the earth, putting his tail in his mouth to keep the mountains that rose from the mighty oceans from splitting the earth apart.

Unkulunkulu added the plants, animals and man. And so was born the universal force of substance and matter. A reflection of as above so below with unlimited potential.   Man would be natural explorers and adventurers. The sun, moon and stars pledged to guide man. The creation was magnificent with rainbows of colour bursting forth in the darkness. Stars finding stars and clustering together to crate their own families.

Father sun and mother moon were not to be outdone. The sun said he would rise like a mighty warrior in the east; he will travel across the sky and burn out all the stars. When man looks to me he will be blinded, but if man looks to the ground he will see himself. As I travel across the world, I will bring heat, light and comfort. If man does not honour my mighty power I will burn his land and his people. I will dry up the rivers and the lakes. My lesson to man is that he is not alone, he is master of his own destiny.

Mother moon said that she would shine, no matter what. She will be seen in the daylight and at night will cast her glow upon the people to guide their way. She will renew herself every 28 days to show man that as she diminishes in size and disappears, she will always return, slowly each night until her full radiance has been achieved. Then man shall stand on the highest mountain and bring their children to me.

As time moved on, Mother moon watched the people below slumbering, and noticed that the plants lived as she did, they would grow, bloom, bear fruit and then in the autumn, they would drop their leaves and fruit and look like they had died, but in the springtime after the healing rains the cycle would begin again, new growth, new fruit, stronger trees.

With man she saw that they grew a little each day, until they we fully grown, then they faded out a little each day until there was nothing. Mother did not feel that this was right, so she called upon the great god of the universe to help the nations of men. Unkulunkulu called on the chameleon to take the message to man and tell them that they shall not die.

uKufaThe chameleon set off at a pace, along the way he began to get hungry and he decided to stop for a snack, nibbling on the succulent leaves – after all his important message will let them know that they will not die, so it didn’t really matter how long he took. Unkulunkulu realised after some time that chameleon had not delivered his message to the nations of man. He then called on the speedy lizard to deliver his message. The lizard knew he could outrun the chameleon and he set off darting amongst the rocks. He too became drowsy and said to himself, “I will take the message to the nations of man when the moon rises”.

Mother moons beautiful face rose as a big ball of fire from behind the mountains in the east. Growing lighter and brighter as she rose higher and higher. By the time she was high in the night sky, she saw that man had not received the important message from Unkulunkulu. She saw the lazy lizard under a rock and the chameleon still snacking on the plants. She decided that she would send the message to the nations of man. She called her faithful servant Mantis to deliver the message. She said tell man “as I die and dying live, so shall ye also die and dying live”. Mantis accepted the important task and began to make his way, along the mighty river, near the sacred lake of the ancestors.

Hare was sitting munching his dinner and overheard the message, “Hah” he said, “I am faster than any of these silly messengers, I will take the message to the nations of man”. He bounded off towards the village, repeating in his head “ as I live so shall you die”, no that wasn’t it. He tried again “as I live and die so shall you live”. Nope that wasn’t it either. “Aha – as I die and dying live, so shall ye also die and dying live.” Yes that’s it.

Hopping into the sacred kraal of man, hare thumped his foot hard on the ground. “Listen up beasts, man, woman and child, I Hare have an important message from mother moon”. The people gathered round, they were so excited to hear from the great mother. The head induna moved forward and said, “speak Hare, what is the message”. Hare was so excited being the centre of attention he blurted out “as I live so ye shall die”. The nations of man were struck with the pain of the message. Father looked to mother, mother looked to child and knew that their time together would end. A great sadness and darkness came upon man. This message had come from Unkulunkulu as well as mother moon. “We hear you Hare, we shall make the best of our time allowed”.

Just then mantis came hopping into the kraal, “don’t listen to him, don’t listen to him he is hare brained and stupid”. “The correct message is “as I die and dying live, so shall ye also die and dying live”. Man looked at mantis, you are too late my friend, as we are all already dying.

Mother moon heard the wailing from the people and she was so angry at hare that she slapped him across his face splitting his lip. “Huh! Is this the thanks I get for being your messenger?” Well take this … he sat his tail in the fire and leapt around so swiftly the coals rose up and burnt the moons face. Each time thereafter when man looked up to the moon, they saw the marking of Hare and were reminded that even the gods and ancestors cannot change the path of their destiny. They had to live each day the best they could for one day each one shall die.

The Ladies of Air – Growth through Intellect

In South Africa, August is Womens Month  with National Womens day on 9 August.  This month I will be paying homage to the women of  iTongo Tarot.  Starting with The Ladies of Air.

Queen of SwordsQUEEN of ASSEGAI (Swords/Air) – People of the East
Nandi (the sweet one) kaBhebhe eLangeni (c.1760 – 1827) Daughter of Bhebhe, a chief of the Langeni tribe, and the mother of Shaka, King of the Zulu and the third wife of Senzangakhona, ruler of the Zulu chiefdom.

What do we learn from Nandi’s journey?
This was a woman who managed to maintain her dignity and focus, no matter what trials and tribulations she endured.  She had a single purpose, to have her son Shaka recognised as the true heir of the Zulu kingdom.  She was determined that Senzangakhona (Shaka’s father), would marry her and legitimise their son.  He offered a paltry sum for her Lobola, which she turned down (this lady knew her value) and legend has it that she settled on 50 head of cattle.

Even though she knew of the prophecy that one day her son would be murdered by his brothers, she pursued the throne, because she knew her son would be king.

“Nandi, daughter of Bhebhe, your first-born shall be king,
Giving birth to a mighty nation of blood stained spears and thundering black shields,
The conditions of the prophecy are that your son remembers
not to defy the ancestors by reaching for powers that are not of his heritage.
The heavens will destroy him from his own blood. “

Nandi was named Queen of Queens when Shaka became king of the Zulu.  She ruled alongside her son with realistic expectations, a sound philosophy and never shied away from difficulties.

iTongo Tarot CardOur next ‘Lady of Air’ is Shaka’s aunt Princess Mkabayi.  The adage “Behind every man is a woman of power” is a true reflection of the woman Princess Mkabayi was.  She had the ability to accept reality with a clear perspective.  She consolidated her resources and was not afraid to act on her thoughts.  She teaches us to follow through on our ideas, maintain harmony and balance within.  Move the focus from within and see the visible manifestation of our thoughts in our actions.

Princess Mkabayi was the elder sister of Senzangakhona, and daughter of King Jama.  She was one of a set of twins and according to Zulu custom, one twin should be sacrificed to avoid the death of one parent. Jama refused to kill one of the twins and so broke a well-established tradition. His wife, Queen Sikhombazana, died without bearing him further successors, and people believed this was a consequence of his act.

A woman of great intellect, Mkabayi presided over the reigns of four kings – King Senzangakhona, King Shaka, King Dingane, and King Mpande. They all drew on her wisdom and experience, and a famous phrase at the time was “Buzani ku Mkabayi”, which means “consult Mkabayi for any solution”.

The Four Kings
Senzangakhona kaJama (c.1762-1816), son of Jama, was chief of the Zulu clan from 1781 to 1816. During the chieftaincy of Senzangakhona, the house of Zulu was a small clan in the Mthethwa confederation, which was ruled by Dingiswayo.

Shaka kaSenzangakhona (c.1787-1828), son of Senzangakhona, ruled from 1816 to 1828. Shaka (sometimes spelled Tshaka, Tchaka or Chaka; sometimes referred to as Shaka Zulu; was the most influential leader of the Zulu empire.

Dingane kaSenzangakhona (c.1795-1840), son of Senzangakhona and half-brother of Shaka, ruled from 1828 to 1840. He came to power after assassinating his half-brother Shaka with the help of another brother, Mhlangana, and Shaka’s advisor, Mbopa.

Mpande kaSenzangakhona (1798-1872), son of Senzangakhona and half-brother of Shaka and Dingane, ruled between 1840 and 1872, making him the longest reigning Zulu king.

21 The Universe – Indalo

iTongo Tarot Card21The Universe – INDALO

CONCEPT Totality; Wholeness of body, mind, spirit; A state of knowing; Completion; Renewal; Regeneration

When I look at this card I am reminded that we are all one and part of the Universal mind and force.  Every thought,  action and emotion is the souls unity with others.  We are perfect in our manifestation, we just have to look around and know that our external world reflects our inner world – that in itself is validation.

Each and every one of us has unlimited potential, we are all natural explorers and adventurers and we should be visionary in what we hope to achieve in this life time.  We need to rise above our circumstances and make something of the hand we have been dealt.  Good fortune should always be shared and pay it forward, in kindness, generosity of spirit and being emotionally available to those in need.

Difficult circumstances should rather be approached as a challenge, everything and everyone has the capacity to change.  We need to just take the time to plot the course, be clear about where we are going and what results we want from our efforts.  Some change takes longer than others, but as I said last week, rather look at how far you have come, acknowledge the differences, adjust your thinking and keep moving forward.  If its not working, make it work or find another way to achieve your goals.  Remember you cant pray for rain and then complain when you get wet – buy an umbrella!

Throughout time, man has observed, recorded, and interpreted the skies. He has made use of astronomy to structure his life and determine his calendar. The geographical location of different cultures has helped shape their perception of how the universe works.  The universe is always listening.  Find your special star that will help you navigate your way through life.  Trust in the universe to help and guide you.

Believe in yourself and your abilities, conquer your fears and manage your demons.  Only you can do it.  Only you are responsible for the choices you make.  Live life to the full, don’t regret a single day.  Don’t miss an opportunity to do it better, but most of all love yourself and love your life.  sprinkle a little stardust, its a wonderful life.

Girl Power – Honour the Feminine within

iTongo Tarot CardFOUR of MORITSOANA (Cups/Water)
People of the West
Key word – EGO
Sense of individuality | Consciousness | Idealisation of self | Express emotions | Simple truth | Evaluation of life and relationships| | Self reflection and renewal | Disengaged to others | Seek peace and serenity

In keeping with Woman’s month and honouring strong woman, the women in our lives or the feminine strength within all of us our card for the week is Four of Cups.  For some this is a card about wishful thinking and it reminds us to pay attention to what we do have now and to count our many blessings.  We shouldn’t wish our lives away but rather enjoy the fruits of our labours today.  We are constantly working towards something and often we forget to take note of how far we have come, and to acknowledge our achievements along the way.  When you build a house you have the vision of the end result, but it takes brick by brick to achieve that result, so too when we are on a journey of the soul – it takes time.  Focus on the positive and manage the negative.

Trust in yourself and your sense of individuality.  When we live our lives consciously we are able to express our emotions, evaluate life around us and further relationships we are nurturing.  We do however need to take time each day to reflect and renew.  All it takes is 10 minutes, sit quietly and meditate, contemplate or think through a problem.  Solutions are always at hand.

Make the choice and eliminate anything or anyone that is not adding quality to your choice.  Get organised.  Seek that peace and serenity we all desire.

When we look at the balance within, we need to look at the two aspects of self our feminine which is our emotions, our need to nurture and create and the masculine aspects which is our intellect, analysis and action.  How are we responding to the world around us?  How much time are we giving to a situation?  Which part of us is the most dominant?

When w e think of the masculine and feminine within we also need to be aware that each also has aspects of the other.  The masculine is about dominance and action but is tempered with benevolence and compassion. The same would apply to our feminine selves, we are the creators of life and embody wisdom and grace. Just like Athena we can also be the warrior and we fight for what we want, fearlessly.

This week continue to honour the feminine within, and the women in your life.  Be supportive and gentle when dealing with their hopes, dreams and fears.  Nurture and nourish your relationships, be they romantic or work related.  Every connection is valuable and take some time to find creative solutions.  Sometimes the simple truth is absolute.  Be like water and go with the flow. It’s World Humanitarian Day, so be nice!

iTongo Legend

Queen Mantatisi (1781-1836) was the Commander of the Batlokoa of Southern Africa, and was perhaps one of the most well-known and feared women military leaders during the early 19th century. She was the daughter of Chief Mothaba of the Basia in the Harrismith District; the area that was later named the Orange Free State.

She married Mokotjo, the chief of the neighbouring Batlokoa. Mokotjo died while their son, Sekonyela, was still too young to take over control of the chieftaincy. As a result, Mantatisi assumed control and acted as regent.

Reports claim that Mantatisi was a tall, attractive woman who bore her husband four sons. After her husband’s death, her clan suffered a series of military encroachments by the AmaHlubi clans who were fleeing their homes in neighbouring Natal and Zululand. According to historians, Mantatisi took the Batlokoa into the Caledon Valley where, after seizing crops and cattle, they drove out the more peaceful Sotho clans living in that area.

Her reign of military conquest extended as far as central modern day Botswana. At the height of her military and political power, her army numbered forty thousand warriors. However, she eventually suffered a series of defeats beginning in Bechuanaland in January 1823.

After Mantatisi’s son, Sekonyele, reached maturity, he took control of the Batlokoa social structures and military arm. Eventually, he was conquered by Moshoeshoe I1, son of a chief of the Bakoteli – a branch of the Kwêna (Crocodile) clan.

Love … the greatest of all

Ace of Cups/Water

Ace of Cups/Water

ACE of MORITSOANA (Water/Cups)
People of the West Key word – LOVE
The gift of love | Power of love | Open heart – attraction | Deep feelings | Intimacy | Atonement | Forgiveness | Emotional awareness | Responding sympathetically | Emotional status

As we near the end of the year and for some the end of the world as we know it, I am reminded of the phrase “the greatest of all, is love”. I am not talking about romantic love, but the love we feel for ourselves, our family, friends and for the world around us.

Wouldn’t life be so much easier if we remembered to come from our hearts, to live with a good heart and to love all that is within us and around us. The gift of love is universal. Some people believe that it is only humans that have the capacity to love, yet when I watch those Discovery or National Geographic movies, I am made aware and reminded of the love between prides and herds. Its not an ego love, its about belonging and protecting. Where do we belong in the greater scheme of things? What will, or what do we protect? Our possessions, our material world way before we consider our loved ones and our protectors. Do we give or show gratitude for our good fortune. How much time do we spend in thankfulness for what we DO have. Most of us spend more time and energy on what we DON’T have. Find balance, we all want to keep moving forward but we can only do that when we address where we are and recognize the lessons of the past.

We need to respond sympathetically to all that is within our lives. We need to have the compassion and understanding that even though it feels like our world is falling apart there is always something we can do, choices we can make .

Yesterday was the Day of Reconciliation – what have you done to forgive, what have you done for atonement? We hear people say ‘I forgive but I will never forget ‘… well that’s not forgiveness. We have to let past hurts, damage and pain go. If we don’t we will always view our world through that hurt and pain. We will judge others and ourselves through that damaged lens. Reconcile your past – it happened and there is nothing we can do to change that, What we can do is change how we react and respond to our past. We hold onto the negative, it seems easier, what we need to do is look past the wrong and start finding what is right.

We need to live with an emotional awareness. We need to make sure that our emotional Quotient (EQ) is at the same level as our Intellectual quotient (IQ). Most of us have an imbalance. We tend live at our intellectual level and when we do respond emotionally we are coming with a stunted or immature emotion. I’ve said it before, we need to have the age appropriate response. Mature the child within.

Love is truth and is not driven by what we can get out of it, love is the selfless act for the greater good of another. Use this holiday time to journey deep within. Start the new year with an open heart, share the wonder that is you. Don’t ask for anything, just ask “how may I serve” and you will see how the universe responds – with pure love.

One of the most loving gifts you can give to another is the gift of presence. Be present, listen and absorb, don’t judge just be … allow the other a safe space to be. Be there for all whom you love. Don’t give false friendship, or false hope

Be present in the moment and give all your attention. Extend the hand of friendship and kindness to others. Even the beggars on the street. You don’t have to give them anything, except yourself – smile, look them in the eyes and acknowledge their life. Acknowledge their suffering and say a prayer of thankfulness.

Live this week with a gentle heart, an open and honest heart. Happy holidays and safe over the festive season.