If Wishes were Horses …

If wishes were horses then beggars would ride.  This week is about wish fulfillment.  What you put out there and work at becomes reality.  There is an old saying “be careful what you wish for, because you will receive exactly that.  Perhaps the Genie from Aladdins lamp is what what we wish for.  How many times have you wished for something and got it?  Surprised?  Try to remember your state of mind, your emotional attachment, the motivation and intent and what did you do to manifest the wish.

Become the master of your destiny.  Make a conscious choice. Act on it, TODAY!

I often say to my clients, what is it that you truly desire, wish for.  Most want the standard health, wealth and happiness. I then ask them what are they doing to bring about their wishes. Again most are not active in their own lives, they allow life to sweep them along.  We have the power to be, do and have whatever we desire.

Learning how to manage our thoughts is the tricky part.  Scientists have shown that highly creative people can generate big bursts of Alpha brain waves, balanced between left and right brain. Any time you have an insight or an inspiration, you know your brain just produced more Alpha waves than usual. Increased creativity is helpful for everyone. How do we do this? Meditation or simply silencing the internal chatter and allowing the brain a neutral state. Buddhists call it “the diamond mind”.

Visualisation is another great tool.  Whether it’s a vision board or simply a picture that represents the item, state of mind or being that you want to achieve.  I once had a client whose greatest wish was to meet former president Mandela.  I asked her how she was going to achieve this.  She said she didn’t know.

There is no purpose in having a dream or wish if you don’t know how to achieve it.  We limit ourselves by not thinking something through.  Visualisation is about “being in a perfect world”, there are no limitations. Quantum Physics teaches that nothing is fixed, that there are no limitations, that everything is vibrating Energy. By understanding that everything is Energy in a state of potential and by applying the Law of Attraction to bring into our lives what we focus on, it is not necessary to feel stuck with an undesirable life.

With our thoughts we transform this ever-changing Energy into the energy of our reality.

Start somewhere – using the mandela analogy, begin by volunteering at one of the Nelson Mandela charities.  Become active in the organisation. Get to know people who know Madiba. Attend functions he will be at. For every action there is a reaction, the more we invest in our hopes, dreams and ambitions, the greater the return.

The desired result is dependent on the quality of the practitioner … YOU!

 The universe has infinite potential in infinite abundance.  When we focus our thoughts, we have the power to manifest our desires – in abundance.

People of the West
Key word – PROMISE (the potential of things to come)

Wonderful prospects | Achieving desires | Manifesting dreams | Sensual gratification | Feeling joy | Satisfaction | Pure indulgence| Optimistic | Purpose and direction | Trust | Delight in all the senses | Content with what is

Diamonds are enduring, an investment and are generally considered the everlasting symbol of love.  The name is derived from the Ancient Greek word ‘adama’ meaning invincible and untamed.

The Cullinan Diamond is the largest rough gem-quality diamond ever found, weighing 3,106.75 carats (621.35g). Frederick Wells, found the stone whilst on a routine inspection on the steep wall of the mine some eighteen feet below the surface of the earth. The diamond was named after Sir Thomas Cullinan the owner of the Premier Diamond Mine Company. The Cullinan was sold to the Transvaal government, which presented it to King Edward VII on his 66th birthday on November 9th, 1907.

Mr. Asscher of Asscher’s Diamond Co. in Amsterdam was entrusted to cut the stone and he studied the huge diamond for months in advance. On February 10th, 1908, he placed the steel cleaver’s blade in a previously prepared V-shaped groove and tapped it once with a heavy steel rod. The blade broke, but the diamond remained intact! The second time, it fell apart exactly as planned, and an employee at the factory reported that Mr. Asscher had fainted.

A second cleavage in the same direction produced three principal sections, which in turn would produce nine major gems, 96 smaller brilliants, and 9.50 carats of unpolished pieces. The nine larger stones remain either in the British Crown Jewels or in the personal possession of the British Royal Family. Rather apt card considering the Diamond Jubilee of Queen Elizabeth II this year.


Ring of Fire – The Solar Eclipse

Many cultures have developed myths and legends about eclipses, most believe that it is a portent of disaster and take great measures and loud noise to drive away the dragon, wolf or crocodile that is devouring the sun.  One can only imagine how the ancients felt when the sky became dark and the sun disappeared – the Greek origin of the word eclipse means ‘abandonment’.

The Pharaohs of Egypt believed that they were the embodiment of the sun, and when an eclipse occurred they had to keep moving around the temple of Osiris till the eclipse was over, thus ensuring the regular motion in the sky. Other traditions believe that they have to replace the brilliance of the sun like the Shinto in Japan who hang precious stone necklaces on the branches of sacred trees, or the Native Americans shoot burning arrows towards the sun to reignite its fire.

However in some traditions eclipses have been interpreted as a sign of love. In South Africa there is a legend of finding true love at the time of an eclipse.

A beautiful young princess and a brave hunter, were deeply in love. Her father the king could not allow this liaison as he had promised her to the son of his life long friend, a neighbouring king. The prince to whom she was promised was well known in the community for his cruelty and brutality.

Fearing that his daughter would elope, the king kept her heavily guarded with his best men.

A lavish celebration was held to honour the princess on the morning of the wedding ceremony. When masked dancers appeared before the king, the princess recognised her lover among them and realised that this would be her opportunity to escape. She only needed a moment of darkness and confusion to succeed in her bid.

Mother moon, well known for her romantic inclination, cast her shadow over the face of the sun, timing it just long enough for the young princess to take off her cloak and disappear into the crowd, hiding behind the mask of her lover.

Legend has it that when a solar eclipse takes place, all you have to do is close your eyes and wish for true love and this wish will be granted.


What is immortality?  The Oxford Dictionary says ; living forever, not mortal. Divine or unfading and incorruptible.

This week on Wednesday, I am presenting a talk at the 8O’Clock Club on immortals and the ancestors.  We grow up learning about these beings that live forever and we learn about their natures, trials and exploits.  Some live in peaceful harmony and others spend eternity repeating a task, never to master it.  Carl Jung looked at these universal patterns that reflect human behaviour and called them archetypes.  Most  people around the globe are familiar with Greek, Roman and Egyptian mythology. There are numerous lines of philosophy and ancient traditions that also contribute to myths and legends.

How are these myths built and how do we use them to better understand human nature.  I believe we are born with inherent knowledge.  The first most basic being our fight or flight triggers (survival of self).  The second is procreation (survival of the species).  Everything else is acquired information we gather from the collective experience of entire human race.  We learn from history, either what is presented from those who came before us, by our own life lessons and consciousness.

I also believe that we are genetically encoded by our parents experience.  We follow the patterns of experience that is reflected around us.  Geography, Creed, Religion, Socio-economic and race all dictate the patterns of our learning.

Kwena (Crocodile)In African culture and traditions, death is not viewed as the destruction of life but rather the immortality of spirit.  These who have died and joined the spirit world are referred to as  the Ancestors or Iminyanya.

In the Venda culture the practice of the re-burial of the Chiefs connects to the custom of swallowing these small rocks. The body of a deceased chief is laid out on a wooden elevation, and left until it has completely decomposed. Once the white rock originally swallowed by the dead chief falls out of the body, that rock is then swallowed by the new chief.

It is believed that swallowing this rock will give him strength and ensure the immortality of tribal lineage. Women guard the body and the small rock to ensure that the rightful chief swallows the rock and not a pretender to the throne.

ModjadjiThe Rain Queens of the BaLoBedu are considered immortal through the succession of the queens. The secrets of calling the rain, are imparted to the successor just before the death of the queen. The new queen must accept the inevitable ending of any career and/or public life she may already have embarked upon, thus ensuring that Modjadji (meaning ruler of the day) continues.

In a savage world of ceaseless warfare and oppression, this small tribe was left unscathed for fear that the awesome queen would take umbrage and curse offenders by withholding the precious rain. The Zulu held her in awe and called her Mabelamane.

When I am Grief counselling one of the things I tell my clients to that as long as they have memory the departed loved one has life.  This is proven over and over through history.  Take Napeoleon as an example – we know more about him than people living in his time.

What is the legacy you will leave behind, do we all become immortal?

The Chariot – INDWE


Indwe invites you to honour the way of the warrior. Be inspired, be fearless.

CONCEPT: Change; As above so below; Impulsive momentum; Imagination; Victorious warrior

Geography The uKhahlamba Drakensberg Park has outstanding natural beauty. As Africa’s highest mountain range south of Kilimanjaro, it has a fascinating and ancient geology, animals and the most concentrated series of rock art in Africa.

In 2000, it became the fourth site in South Africa to be granted World Heritage status by the United Nations Educational, Scientific, and Cultural Organisation (UNESCO). In describing the park’s natural heritage, UNESCO notes its “exceptional natural beauty in its soaring basaltic buttresses, incisive dramatic cutbacks, and golden sandstone ramparts. Rolling high altitude grasslands, the pristine steep-sided river valleys and rocky gorges also contribute to the beauty of the site.”

Warriors When a man distinguished himself by deeds of valour or any form of meritorious conduct, he was presented with the feather of the Blue Crane, which the amaXhosa call Indwe. (The Blue Crane (Anthropoides paradisea) – also known as the Stanley Crane and the Paradise Crane, is the national bird of South Africa.)

These feathers were presented at a ceremony for heroes called “ukundzabela”.  Men, so honoured, wore the feathers sticking out of their hair, and were known as “men of ugaba” (trouble) – the implication being that if trouble arose, these men would reinstate peace and order.

War-shields (isiHlangu) are always made of oxhide, two shields normally being cut from one hide. They are oval in shape and are decorated by two rows of slits cut lengthwise into the shield intertwined with strips of hide of a contrasting colour. The projection at the lower end is sharpened, and is used as a rest on which the shield can stand, or as an additional weapon for stabbing. The top projection, covered with fur, is decorative.

With his introduction of a regimental organisation Shaka used shields in such a way that they became part of a soldier’s uniform. Junior regiments had all black shields or shields in which black predominated; married men and mixed regiments bore predominantly red shields; seniority and battle experience was indicated by an increasing whiteness, all white shields reflecting the greatest honour.

iTongo Interpretation of The Chariot

The victory of self-discipline /Free flow of thought /Imagination is the vehicle of destiny /Conviction /Hard control /Great motivator /Maintaining impetus /Meditation as a tool /Egocentric /The application of wisdom

The call is to be inspired and fearless, to honour the warrior within, we all have one.  Inspiration comes when we are in control of our thoughts and emotions, but it needs space to manifest.  Imagination is the vehicle of destiny.  Walt Disney said, “if you can dream it, you can do it”.  Have the courage of your convictions.

What inspires you? Is it a person, an action or a community?  Once we are inspired how do we maintain the impetus?  Following through is the key. The problem is maintaining focus and the drive to accomplish the goal or win the internal battle. Looking at your life from a different angle often sheds light on what needs to be done.  Its about focus and intent.  Its about knowing what you want, how to get it and what to do with it once you have it.  Victory is available, just begin the journey within.

How does one journey within?  Prayer, meditation, contemplation. A simple way to quiet the mind to allow the unconscious to become conscious is through breath. Breath is life, the basic and most fundamental expression of our life.  In yoga the breath or in Sanskrit “prana” is said to be the vehicle of the mind.  Because it is the prana that makes our mind move. It is through breath that all those messages are carried through the blood stream to the relevant muscle, which in turn reacts.

Our body parts are neutral, they have no emotion or thought – it is up to us to make sure that the right message is getting to the right centre, so we can enjoy the right response.

So when we calm the mind by working with the breath we are simultaneously and automatically taming and training the mind.  We take a deep breath when life becomes stressful – let out a deep breath when the moment of anxiety has passed – breath regulates our temperature and mood.  It is through breath that we can bring about physiological change within our bodies.  We express ourselves through breath.  Laugher, groaning, panting etc.

Find the tool that best supports your inner landscape. Our inner world is reflected in our outer world.  Look around and see what is right and what is wrong.  Take ownership of your thoughts and actions and make the changes that will bring about your best life.  Breathe.

A Tarot Tale about “How Death Came to Man”

Once upon a time when Unkulunkulu the great god of  the universe finished creating the universe, he called upon his dear friend the rainbow serpent to keep the earth safe for all time.  The giant serpent with all the colours imagined reflecting on his skin wrapped his body around the earth, putting his tail in his mouth to keep the mountains that rose from the mighty oceans from splitting the earth apart.

Unkulunkulu added the plants, animals and man.  He knew for the earth to prosper he had to create perfection in his manifestation.  And so was born the universal force of substance and matter.  A reflection of as above so below with unlimited potential.   Man would be natural explorers and adventurers. The sun, moon and stars pledged to guide man.  The creation was magnificent with rainbows of colour bursting forth in the darkness.  Stars finding stars and clustering together to crate their own families.

The great god said that my people would live in the lakes and rivers to protect the humans from the sun, moon and stars.  These people will be known as “those who have gone before” the amaThonga, the ancestors.  The pride of my tribe will be in the far north of the far south.  These people will gather around a mighty river and seek counsel from the lake of the water people.

The emperor of the animals shall be the elephant, the king of the children of the sun god shall be the white lion and the protector of the tribe will be the crocodile.    Each of these animals was called one by one to meet with the creator.  He told them that they were to walk among the earth and shine their light for the people to follow.  The lion was first to rise up forming his light cluster in the sky. The great elephant and the crocodile followed, each taking their positions above to shine and lead man.

The seven sisters took an oath to rise each winter as a promise of spring.  They would dance for the mortals below and show them that time had come to plant for the year ahead.  We will bring to man a sense of self confidence and esteem.  Their light shall shine as bright as ours.  They will lead generous and open hearted lives.  They will be rewarded for their toils and labours.  We will tell them when to start digging to prepare for the planting at the beginning of each growing season.  We will watch over the family and when we appear in the east, the mothers will lift up their children and teach them to reach for the stars.  We will mark the beginning of a new year.

Four great stars came together, with 3 cousins – this great constellation said that let it be known as long as we shine, no man shall ever be lost.  We will always point to his home.  We will drift across the night sky in the darkness as well as twilight, shining brighter than any other.  We will be the symbol of hope, light and the great tree of life.

A lone star heard this, and believed that since he didn’t have family, he would have to be one of the brightest stars to shine for man.  They call me by many names Naka, isAndulela, inKhwenkwezi, “The Brilliant Star” and Sirius he said.  I bring reward and will tell the people when to gather their crops.  I will shine brightest at dawn, so the vigilant will see me and sound the horn of plenty.  When I shine at night man shall ask for supper. My signal is to begin the harvest and be the messenger of autumn and the warning that the cold winter months are coming.

The father sun and mother moon were not to be outdone.  The sun said he would rise like a mighty warrior in the east; he will travel across the sky and burn out all the stars.  When man looks to me he will be blinded, but if man looks to the ground he will see himself.  As I travel across the world, I will bring heat, light and comfort.  If man does not honour my mighty power I will burn his land and his people.  I will dry up the rivers and the lakes.  My lesson to man is that he is not alone, he is master of his own.

Mother moon heard this and said that she would shine, no matter what.  She will be seen in the daylight and at night will cast her glow upon the people to guide their way.  She will make herself new every 28 days to show man that as she diminishes in size and disappears, she will always return, slowly each night until her full radiance has been achieved.  Then man shall stand on the highest mountain and bring their children to me.

As time moved on, Mother moon would watch the people below slumbering, and noticed that the plants lived as she did, they would grow, bloom, bear fruit and then in the autumn, they would drop their leaves and fruit and look like they had died, but in the springtime after the healing rains the cycle would begin again, new growth, new fruit, stronger trees.

With man she saw that they grew a little each day, until they we fully grown, then they faded out a little each day until there was nothing.  Mother did not feel that this was right, so she called upon the great god of the universe to help the nations of men.  Unkulunkulu called on the chameleon to take the message to man and tell them that they shall not die.

The chameleon set off at a pace, along the way he began to get hungry and he decided to stop for a snack, nibbling on the succulent leaves – after all his important message will let them know that they will not die, so it didn’t really matter how long he took. Unkulunkulu realised after some time that chameleon had not delivered his message to the nations of man. He then called on the speedy lizard to deliver his message.  The lizard knew he could outrun the chameleon and he set off darting amongst the rocks.  After a time he became drowsy in the sunshine, so he decided to take a break in the shade and said to himself, “I will take the message to the nations of man when the moon rises”.

Mother moons beautiful face rose as a big ball of fire from behind the mountains in the east.  Growing lighter and brighter as she rose higher and higher.  By the time she was high in the night sky, she saw that man had not received the important message from Unkulunkulu.  She saw the lazy lizard under a rock and the chameleon still snacking on the plants.  She decided that she would send the message to the nations of man.  She called her faithful servant Mantis to deliver the message.  She said tell man “as I die and dying live, so shall ye also die and dying live”.  Mantis accepted the important task and began to make his way, along the mighty river, near the sacred lake of the ancestors.

Hare was sitting munching his dinner and overheard the message, “Hah” he said, “I am faster than any of these silly messengers, I will take the message to the nations of man”.  He bounded off towards the village, repeating in his head “ as I live so shall you die”, no that wasn’t it.  He tried again “as I live and die so shall you live”.  Nope that wasn’t it either.  “Aha – as I die and dying live, so shall ye also die and dying live.”  Yes that’s it.

Hopping into the sacred kraal of man, hare thumped his foot hard on the ground.  “Listen up beasts, man, woman and child, I Hare have an important message from mother moon”.  The people gathered round, they were so excited to hear from the great mother.  The head induna moved forward and said, “speak Hare, what is the message”.  Hare was so excited being the centre of attention he blurted out “as I live so ye shall die”.  The nations of man were struck with the pain of the message.  Father looked to mother, mother looked to child and knew that their time together would end.  A great sadness and darkness came upon man.  This message had come from Unkulunkulu as well as mother moon.  “We hear you Hare, we shall make the best of our time allowed”.

Just then mantis came hopping into the kraal, “don’t listen to him, don’t listen to him he is hare brained and stupid”.  “The correct message is “as I die and dying live, so shall ye also die and dying live”.  Man looked at mantis, you are too late my friend, as we are all already dying.

Mother moon heard the wailing from the people and she was so angry at hare that she slapped him across his face splitting his lip.  “Huh! Is this the thanks I get for being your messenger?”  Well take this … he sat his tail in the fire and leapt around so swiftly the coals rose up and burnt the moons face.  Each time thereafter when man looked up to the moon, they saw the marking of Hare and were reminded that even the gods and ancestors cannot change the path of their destiny.  They had to live each day the best they could for one day each one shall die.