6 The Lovers – UTHANDO (uthando n. (-thando): Love)

iTongo Tarot Card

Key Words & Phrases:  Art of relationships /The harmony between lovers and friends /Harmonious connections with other people /Spiritual or transcendent power within /Balance between male and female /The understanding of paradox /A love affair with a trial or choice attached /Humanism /Time and space to integrate experience /Nurturing and care-giver

I usually talk refer to the Lovers as a card of choices and decisions, but it does also have romantic love connotations. They say that we cant choose who we fall in love with. So what is this magic that happens between two people? Why those specific people? Is it all part of a grand design or is there something about Soul Mates?

I have a bit of a problem with the concept that there is half of me somewhere waiting to meet up. I also have a problem with the theory that until we meet that soul mate we are not whole or complete. I prefer to subscribe to the theory that we are whole and complete and that finding that special someone ‘compliments’ our life.

Love and certainly romantic love is such an intangible, only when you are in the bloom of love does one seem to make sense of it all. Throughout time philosophers, poets, musicians have pondered and wondered about this feeling and state of being. How it works, what it is, how to explain it.

How do we love? Why do we need to love? I believe that we are born with the instinct to create, and in order for that creativity and (pro-creation) to succeed it needs positive loving energy to motivate and manifest to all that it can be.

The emotions of love can raise us up and can devastate us. That is the paradox of loving. We owe it to ourselves to nurture our own spirit, to love who we are and what we do. When we achieve that, we are so much more powerful and have greater capacity to love and nurture others.

It’s not always what we say that makes a difference, it’s the follow through of our actions that underlines the emotions we share. This week, be loving, be centred within yourself and your heart and share that well being with others. Do random acts of kindness. Smile at a stranger. Remember loved ones who have passed. Most of all show those you love that you care, that they are special and a light in your life.

zayn adamsToday’s card is for a friend who has passed into the light. A man whose voice brought chills and could move you to tears. Zayn Adams truly mastered the art of relationships. He embraced the concept of uBuntu and was warm and giving to all that he met. He was a deeply spiritual man with a keen sense of humour.

His music lives on.


Shine a little light …

This morning I woke up with the phrase “shine a little light on me” running through my head.  I can’t remember the song or who sang it.  As I settled in for my morning meditation I could hear the Muezzin in the Bo Kaap recite the Azan (Islamic call to prayer) and by the time I was done and settled down with my first cuppa of the day I could hear the bells of Nazareth House ringing the Angelus.  Being Sunday morning all the churches are calling the faithful, but I began to wonder about the ‘light on me” or the light within me.

Man has used physical light to illuminate the darkness – metaphorically speaking light is used to describe the Divine, energy and life force.  Throughout time, man has observed, recorded and interpreted the skies.  Using the cycles and structure of astronomy to determine his calendar. The geographical location of different cultures has helped shape their perception of how the universe works and the structure of their calendars.

In South Africa we have the Southern Cross, it is unmistakable being the brightest and most distinctive.  Sailors using celestial navigation set their sextant to Alpha Crusis and Gamma Crusis to set due South. We offer light from land in the form of Light Houses, to guide those on their journey to safe harbour.

So I’m wondering what is my Southern Cross or lighthouse as I journey and navigate through life. What tools do I use to discover the fire within or inner light (umlilo – Xhosa).

During the late 80’s and early 90’s I made choices that radically altered the course of my life.  Some I regret that I didn’t think them through and others put me on the path I walk today.  I tried various tools and techniques before I settled on systems, philosophies and practice that I could manage and work with.  Over time I have seen the results of my endeavours and this is what keeps me going.

Once we have discovered our light within, do we not owe it to the process to shine bright for others.  We teach and lead – but sometimes we just need to stand like a lighthouse to guide, without question or judgement.

This reminds me of the internet joke going around a few years ago.

Ship: Divert your course to avoid a collision.

Reply: Recommend that YOU divert YOUR course to avoid collision.

Ship: This is the Captain of a US Navy Ship.  I say again, divert your course.

Reply: No.  I say again you divert your course.

Ship:  We are a large warship of the US Navy.  DIVERT YOUR COURSE NOW!

Reply:  This is the Lighthouse.  Your call

How often do we really hear what is being transmitted to us.

Are we so stuck in our own beliefs and power that we are incapable of change or entertaining new thoughts and ideas.  We sometimes feel stuck and don’t know how to move forward, yet when we take a moment to reflect and consider we usually come up with a workable solution.

We see the ‘light’.

Tools that work for me.

  • Daily Meditation : I do 20 minutes each morning. Some would say not enough and I should be doing 2x a day, but I do stop during the day for a quick refresher or focus technique as needed. For me its about the process of the journey and not the destination.  Rather consistent than not at all.
  • Breath Work: Included in my meditation, and used throughout the day as needed. Breathing for relaxation, focus and inner strength.
  • Daily Dream Journal: I record my dreams to be able to look back and discover the patterns, issues and situations I need to be consciously aware of.  I also use dreams for my police work in finding missing persons.  It has proven invaluable when needing focus and direction.
  • Tarot Card Visualisation: I use this when I need to discover an elements, issues or situations that need resolving. Sometimes I use the cards to indicate what I should be aware of.
  • Chakra Balance: Always feels good to have Body, Mind and Soul in harmony and all aspects working together.  I have some great meditations to balance each Chakra individually and an all encompassing meditation for overall harmony and well-being.
  • Guided Meditation: I like to use these as an alternative method to daily mantra or focus meditations.  Sometimes we need to let go and allow something other than ourselves to be the guide.

I firmly believe that we are never alone in our quest for enlightenment.  There are as many paths as there are people.  Choose the system and tools that resonate with you.  The most important aspect is that we seek, that we persevere and continue to feed the flame within.

Shine a little light on someone today!